It’s a mom’s job to protect our children, teach them to follow the ways of the Lord, help them stay away from things that will lead them astray – so it’s all on us to make them into the person you know God wants them to be, right? It’s our fault if they don’t want to listen to worship music. It’s our fault if they don’t want to go to youth group. It’s our fault if they get bad grades. It’s our fault if they get sick or hurt.
This is the crushing weight I believe all mothers – including myself – feel as they navigate through the adventure of parenting. Some of us feel the pressure of this lie more than others.
The reality is that we have no control over the choices our children make. Yes, it’s very important that we follow scripture and “train up a child in the way they should go” but ultimately we have to let go and release our children and their decisions to the Lord.
Our children and spouse are for our sanctification. Our children fight us to do things their way; but isn’t that’s what we all too often do with God?
I believe that God gives us our children to teach us the model of servant leadership and how our relationship should reflect Jesus’ demonstration of this type of leadership with His selfless acts of serving his disciples (John 13:1-7).
Reach out and be led by the Holy Spirit. Even when we mess up, God is leading us. We have to be committed to spending time in the presence of the Lord to keep our hearts humble and malleable to give us the power we need to let go of control and repent to our children and the Lord. As mothers and followers of Christ almighty, we are called to model grace and forgiveness. Children only learn what is walked out in front of them.
And so, I want to share to share a special parenting prayer to help encourage and strengthen your faith and trust in the Lord in wherever you may be in this season of parenting. Remember mom – you are not in control.
I am not enough for my children but through you I can do all things. I can do what you want me to do and step back and let you work in the life of my children. I know you love them and me unconditionally and are patient with us all. I ask for your words of wisdom to speak when they are brave enough to open up to me to about their struggles, fears, hopes and desires. Help me Lord. Right now they are doing most of the talking, but I have prayed for them to open up so help me to know when I should speak and when I should only listen and let you work their hearts.
Lord please bless my precious children with your discernment and your wisdom. Help them to have the courage to let you in. I rebuke the spirit of fear from them in the name of Jesus.
I ask that you set them free from any and all spiritual bondages completely. Please reverse any word curses they have spoken over themselves including words spoken by others – even words spoken by myself and their dad out of ignorance and blindness to their power.
I repent Lord of any ways that I have tried to manipulate and control my children. Help me repair any damage I have done to our relationship. Heal any wounds that I or other members of the family have inflicted upon them in the name of Jesus.
I humbly ask that you place your all powerful hand of protection over them and allow the Holy Spirit to move in their lives. Please move supernaturally in their hearts and tear down any walls they built that are keeping them from fully knowing you, loving you, worshiping you and walking in your presence.
I want everything you have for them Lord. Your Word says, “The wind blows wherever it pleases. You hear its sound, but you cannot tell where it comes from or where it is going. So it is with everyone born of the Spirit” (John 3:8). Lord, I am coming boldly before your mighty throne to ask that you blow on my children and that I am able to witness their transformation by your radical love in my lifetime.
We can’t just preach to our children. It’s not up to us. Prayer is the way. Let go and watch the Spirit of God move and know that God will work even in our mistakes as we humble ourselves before Him and yes sometimes even before our children!